When is mommy officially “off”?

Tara, over at The Young Mommy Life, recently wrote a post about when you feel your family doesn’t appreciate you. I have to say that I knew exactly what she meant in that situation and have definitely been there. However, my downfall is that I was never good at sharing and disclosing those feelings because I always have a sense of “I shouldn’t feel entitled to this” or “why do I really deserve that”.

Lately, I have been experiencing these feelings more often since I had my newborn. With needing to breastfeed him every hour, make meals for all four of us throughout the day, keep my toddler busy, and try to get some work done within the three hours that Dukey is off at school, I am exhausted by the time my husband gets home. Yet, I still manage to make dinner and get both of the boys ready for bedtime.

It is starting to get to a point where I am getting snappy and frustrated with everyone and am losing my sanity.

I can’t help but ask when will I get to “clock out”.

I am so in need of a spa day or something but, more importantly, I have to learn how to ask for help when I need it. I know I am not the only mother to feel this way but it feels weird to even think about asking for help.

When I ask for help, it makes me feel inferior. As if I am not capable of handling it on my own and even when that may be true, I guess I just have a hard time admitting it.

But, I am going to have to learn how to and enjoy myself. Doing so will help me to be a better me for everyone so it is most definitely needed.

Chime in and share your thoughts! What is your cure for work-a-mommy-holic?

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2 thoughts on “When is mommy officially “off”?

  1. Good point. I’ve learned that the hard way. If you don’t ask for it, you won’t get it. Or like they used to say back in the day, ‘A closed mouth won’t get fed’ lol.

    At the end of the day it helps the relationship when there’s a little team work, as well.

  2. I really wish I had a cure for this, but sadly I don’t. The only thing I can say is try to offload some of the work to the Mr. That is what I have been trying to do. But you know how that is–kid is supposed to be asleep by 7 and dad got her up past 7:30 and still not ready for bed. Talk about frustration!

    This time with this second child coming, I told him be prepared to cook, and do more around the home. I like it neat and put together, and our daughter is going to need attention too. Since he’s taking vacation time to help out in the beginning, I’m going to be using it to rest up and get my mind together.

    I guess we, as mothers, always go the extra mile for our families, and they see it, and it becomes our “normal” for them. If anything, you need to demand that time to clock out, because if you keep asking “when do I clock out” you’ll never get that break.

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